Welcome to my latest Link Love post!
Link Love is simply three links about weddings, wedding vows, ceremonies, or Savannah, GA that caught my eye this week and I want to share with y’all. I aim to share stories, tips, and information that will interest you and help you plan your wedding or elopement!
It’s been a big week for marriage equality this week, but I’ve been working on a more complex blog post on this topic. Check the blog next week for information on how Monday’s Supreme Court ruling impacts LGBT individuals in the Georgia and the lowcountry.
1. 10 Things We All Need To Do Before We Say ‘I Do’ (Huff Post Weddings)
Love this piece. A college student wrote it, but I didn’t get half of the items on this list until I was in my mid-30s. It’s a reminder that it’s always important to keep working on ourselves, and it’s never too late to make changed.
2. Getting Married is Easy (NY Times)
This is an extremely raw article from Elizabeth Wurtzel on finally falling in love at 46 after coming to a new understanding of herself. I feel like it’s an amazing companion to the HuffPost written by the emotionally secure college student
“Most people get sick and tired of being sick and tired by the time they are 28, which is the average age of marriage in the United States. I was more like 45. I guess I just love a parade. For a while before I met my fiancé, I was just alone. I indulged in boredom; I found it restful.
I cried profuse tears when my relationships failed, which was all the time. I wanted to love and be loved, but I behaved badly, and I had terrible taste. All the people who say they want to be married, but are not, are doing the same thing. All the statistics about how hard it is to find someone to love in this world — in this world of seven billion — do not account for the choices we make. We are the sum of our decisions: It’s not that luck has nothing to do with it, but rather, there is no such thing.
It is difficult to write a published book. It is difficult to get tenure in the astrophysics department at Berkeley. It is difficult to win the Heisman Trophy. But it is easy to get married: about 90 percent of Americans still do at some time in their lives. No self-help industry is required. People who want to get married stop behaving like fools for love and start acting intelligently. It is as simple as wanting to be happy.”
3. Do Men in Traditional Marriages Block Women’s Advancement? (Harvard Business Review)
In America, marriage is so much more than your relationship with your spouse. It impacts your relationship with the government, and how well you do your in your career. It’s important to be aware of this as a woman.
Spoiler alert: the answer to the title of the article is yes. Men whose wives did not work were more likely to negatively rate female employees who were married than men with wives who did work. Think about that the next time you’re job searching and evaluating if your new boss is going to be good for your career.